It’s Time to Rethink Retirement

Although not exactly what you’d call an “in-depth” article on the front page of Yahoo! Finance on May 17, 2021, the short post is important. Let me save you the click.

Jo Ann Jenkins, the CEO of AARP, said that “For the first time in recorded history, the number of people aged 65 and older was higher than the number of children under the age of 5.”

Lookout Millennials, GenX is aging and you’re going to have to take care of us. But we can we count on them for that? I’m not so sure. From latchkey kids to custodians of our aging parents, we’re used to doing things for ourselves.

So maybe it is time to rethink retirement. Maybe the Boomer dream of quitting work and living off of pensions and social security will not be there for us.

If you’ve been reading our stuff, you know this is why Transformations is here. We’re not about to ride off into the sunset of early bird dinner specials and shuffleboard on Pompano Beach.

Now is the time to start thinking beyond the financial implications of retirement. Sure, you might know how to get there, but what are you going to do with all that time?

There’s only so many times you can watch Tommy Boy. Or is there?

Seize the day.

AARP’s CEO Says It’s Time to Rethink Retirement (article)

Who Let the Blogs Out? // The Power of Writing by Hand

“In spite of the countless note-taking and to-do list apps and software I’ve experimented with over the years, I always come back to writing things down on paper. Though I still use the apps for checklists and for master lists of things, my day-to-day note-taking and prioritizing happens on pen and paper (or dry erase marker and whiteboard).”

The Art of Manliness has a blog post category called, “Manly Skills.” But don’t fear ladies, I think this post is useful for you too.

Here’s just a few of the benefits of writing by hand:

  • Boosts your memory through encoding.
  • Forces you to think and filter.
  • Creates a visual reminder that keeps things top of mind.

And don’t forget about all the monogrammed note pad collections students have given you over the years. There’s nothing better than leaving a note for the Amazon delivery driver that says, “From the Desk of Tim Desmond.” Gravitas!

The Power of Writing by Hand (blog post)

Pod Save the Queen // Rejecting Assumptions About Aging with Actor, Writer, Director, and Producer, Justine Bateman

I know, I know. You’re thinking Mallory and Family Ties. But Justine’s new book addresses something we’re all going to FACE (you’ll get that joke in a second) and I’m not talking about how to manage fame as an 80s child actor.

“Justine Bateman has done it all and doesn’t plan on slowing down anytime soon. In her new book, Face: One Square Inch of Skin, she addresses irrational fear cycles, like the aging of one’s face leading to missed friendships or job opportunities, and instead introduces a healthy way of deconstructing and understanding these fears. Justine first gained popularity for her role as Mallory Keaton on 80s sitcom Family Ties and has since been involved in a number of other movies and TV shows. Her first book, Fame: The Hijacking of Reality, won acclaim for her honest evaluation of celebrity culture in today’s world. To order her latest book, follow the link below.”

On a bit of a funny note, my “thing” in podcast interviews has become the wacky first question. It totally landed with Matthew McConaughey. With Justine Bateman, not so much…

Rejecting Assumptions About Aging with Actor, Writer, Director, and Producer, Justine Bateman (Writers, Ink) (podcast episode)

Mall Food Court // The great American chicken wing shortage is upon us

Are ten-cent wings still a thing? In 1992, I could spend the night at Mitchell’s Tavern in North Oakland (near the University of Pittsburgh) on a ten-dollar bill. Not so much anymore.

This article on Vox might scare the crap out of you: a nationwide wing shortage!

“This is why those damp wings with the limp roasted meat from national pizza chains are the same price, while your local place has either discontinued wing night or made it such that it doesn’t really feel like you’re getting a deal anymore. We’ve allowed the brands to lead us into a hell where independent restaurants may have to start charging ‘market price’ for a plate of buffalo wings, as if they were Maryland blue crabs. And the planet reaps irreparable damage as a result.”

The problem with wings might not be something we can easily out fly.

The great American chicken wing shortage is upon us (article)

Pass the Remote // Tommy Boy

Hey, does this suit make me look fat?

Tommy Boy ranks at the top of all GenX comedies, and for good reason. A retrospective on Rotten Tomatoes explains one reason the movie endures 25 years later.

“Perhaps the movie’s most memorable scene, too, came from someone on set noticing that, after shooting the ‘fat guy in a little coat’ bit, Farley started singing the dialogue. They thought it was so funny they decided to reshoot it, and it’s hard to imagine it working nearly as well without Farley’s sing-songy delivery. There are too many good quotes from Farley to list here — besides, many of them have been recited ad nauseum in college dorm rooms over the last two-plus decades — but let’s spotlight these doozies: ‘Brothers don’t shake hands. Brothers gotta hug,’ and ‘John Hancock… It’s Herbie Hancock.’”

Boomers can claim Jim Belushi and I won’t take anything away from his comedic genius and originality. But I think Chris Farley was a warm, sweet, loveable idiot which is a rare combination.

If you haven’t watched Tommy Boy recently, do yourself a favor and fire up the stream. It’s impossible to walk away without a smile.

Tommy Boy (Amazon Prime Video)

Mixtape Rewind // “You Oughta Know” by Alanis Morissette

Hot women with a sailor’s mouth were always my weakness. It’s hard to believe that Alanis went down on him in a movie theater. But apparently she did.

Morissette enjoyed bigger hits and has since evolved, as most of us do over 25+ years. But if you’re looking for pure, raw, energy wrapped in a catchy rock song, you can’t go wrong with this one.

We’ve all had those relationships and breakups. No matter what side you’re on, you’re always thinking, “You Oughta Know.”

In case you didn’t know, Dave Navarro (Jane’s Addiction) played guitar on the recording, with bass by Flea (Red Hot Chili Peppers). A relatively unknown touring drummer at the time by the name of Taylor Hawkins (Foo Fighters) can be seen in the music video.

“You Oughta Know” by Alanis Morissette (Spotify)

Where Were You When… [1995]

The more things change…

In October 1995, Louis Farrakhan called for a large gathering of African-American men in Washington, D.C.

As stated on Wikipedia, “One of the primary motivating factors for the march was to place black issues back on the nation’s political agenda. In the aftermath of the Republican Party’s victory in the 1994 Congressional election and the continued success of the party’s campaign platform, the Contract with America, some African American leaders felt the social and economic issues facing the black community fell by the wayside of policy debates. March organizers believed that politicians were failing the black community by ‘papering over the most vital dimensions of the crisis in international capitalism’ and blaming urban blacks for ‘domestic economic woes that threatened to produce record deficits, massive unemployment, and uncontrolled inflation.’”

The Million Man March wasn’t the first mass protest over the issues minorities face, and it wouldn’t be the last.

An interesting anecdote is that Spike Lee’s Get on the Bus was released exactly one year to the day, in 1996.

The Million Man March – October 16th, 1995 (

Fat Guy in a Little Coat

“I got enough to do without having to change your diapers.”